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Self Love Is More Than Words – Bye For Now

I’ve been self loving from a young age (had no idea that’s what it was called) as this was how I managed to overcome a lot of my insecurities surrounding my sickle cell. Growing with this mentality has given me so much confidence that I can sometimes come across as a little bit conceited… I even once described myself as ‘amazing’ in an interview. Lol! Of course, I’m not once you get to know me — conceited that is— I am amazing though. Anyway back to the point,

I thought I had mastered self love. I believed my affirmations were powerful and my attitude towards myself was the best that it could be. I was completely wrong though.

Flooding your brain with positive self talk and declaring what you want to be true about yourself, is only half of the process to creating positive changes in our lives and the way we think and feel about ourselves. We also have to be taking steps to support what we are saying, which in my case I realised I wasn’t doing.

It’s not just what you say, it’s also what you do.

One of my affirmations is ‘I Am Healthy’, yet one day I had to ask myself how this could be true If I wasn’t doing everything in my power to be as healthy as I possibly could? Yes, I have sickle cell but that is not the be all and end all of my health. There are so many other things I can be doing to ensure I don’t end up sick and in hospital or not able to live life the way I want to live it.

Self love is not just what we say to ourselves, it’s what we do to our selves too. What are we eating? What are we drinking? What are we putting on our skin? Who are we allowing to be around us? All of these things have an impact on our health and once we accept that this is true, there are so many things that we can change.

My last bout of illness caused by yet another complication of sickle cell, has really shifted my focus when it comes to my health and I have been paying a lot more attention in particular to what I put into my body – including the medication. I have been doing research into natural / herbal alternatives to managing my sickle cell as well as looking at my diet and cutting out or cutting down on certain foods. Just when I thought I couldn’t love myself anymore, I’ve discovered there’s a lot more to self love than I even comprehended.

I may share some of the changes I have made in future blog posts or on my YouTube channel, but at the moment, I want to focus on myself and wherever this new journey may take me.


  • Betty Quayson
    November 12, 2018

    You are so right. Self love does need to be followed by actions. Taking action to do something or to cut something from your life. I do hope that once you have seen a change and are confident about the changes that you’re embarking on that you do share with us. Glad to hear from you. ?❤️

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